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Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Reasons Why One Should Never Date A Bartender...

There are a few rules that I tend to go by when it comes to dating that I have learned along the way. They are:

I know, I know - it sounds harsh but I've learned from either my personal experiences or by observing friends in the same situation. I'm friends with a number of the above people but to date them - like that classic song states - "Ain't No Way." I'd rather keep the friendship. Plus, if you look at my ex history, most are either military or cops. That's just how I roll...

Back in the day, I used to work for a promoter and we'd work with various bars around Massachusetts and Connecticut. While fun times were definitely had, I got quite the observation view when it came to people who hit on the bouncer, bartender, dj, etc. The stories they would tell - we'll just have to leave that for another day (and I'll work on bribing Bren, Bec or one of my other buddies to disclose in a later post.) But the bartender story I also know on a personal level with someone we'll call "Shotboy". Shotboy worked in a bar in Massachusetts that Meowmix drug me to after the nasty breakup with Mark. She thought that her buddy Damian would take my mind off of things and, instead, well it was his roommate Shotboy that kept me distracted. Many an interesting night was had at The Palace. However, I knew that Shotboy was not the dateable type. Shotboy had one too many "distractions" vying for his attention. Not to mention, had I fallen hard like some of the drunk girls I'd see throwing themselves at Damian and crew, Meowmix would have quickly slapped me upside my head and reminded me that dating a shotboy/bartender is just not feasible. It just doesn't happen. You enjoy your time and part ways. Simple enough.

Now, speaking of bartenders - there is one bartender that I find utterly hilarious - Ant. Meowmix has affectionately dubbed him "Eye Candy." Ant is the quintessential Philly boy - and the girls know it. Don't get me wrong -he's a great guy and all, but still - the man would be perfect as either an FBI Profiler or a bartender when it comes to reading people. Whenever I'm in Philly at one of my fave spots, the girls there tend to be quite fond of all things Ant. So it surprised me a bit when I got the following Facebook text* as to his status late Saturday.



Wait a minute - he's in a packed bar that is one the hottest joints in Philly on a weekend and he needs to send out a Facebook status like that?!?!? (Sidenote: How many phone calls/texts did he get with offers from his extensive friends list - hmmm.) Ant is the type of guy who, when he's out and about, he can chat with a girl for a hot minute and next thing you know, she's falling over herself to keep his attention. Don't even get me started on the girls that frequent that joint. So I got suspicious that, perhaps, Ant did what he often does - leaves the beloved iPhone on the bar and someone's being a wiseass or, perhaps, he was "just putting it out there."

Either way - the above exchange can be incorporated into my argument of "Don't Date a Bartender". The girls who throw themselves at bartenders are a funny lot. They take it to a whole new level sometimes. There have been many a night when I'm working a gig and the girls are all a twitter with "Oh my god, did you see how he passed that drink to me? He's totally into me." or "Is he looking at me?" as they flip their hair all around like a daggone Pantene commercial. Let's not even talk about the drunk girls who sit at the bar giving the bartender's customers the side eye because he should be paying them attention and not the customers. Perhaps they are thinking that the Bartender will be like Steve from S&TC and sweep them off their feet like he did with Miranda. HOWEVER, 9 times out of 10, that isn't the case, especially with bartenders working in some of the popular clubs.

Ladies, let's be frank - basically the bartender has a job to do. However, remember to tip him nicely, order lots of drinks and - for the love of god, don't date him. You can mess around with him and it is what it is - but I'm of the belief that you don't hang on hopes for something long term.

As Samantha once counseled Charlotte in an ep. of S&TC: "Hang on honey, you don't fall in love with Mr. [Bartender]. You enjoy him and then set him free."
*Note: Status photo used with permission courtesy of Ant.

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Monday, June 30, 2008

S&TC Quote of the Week...

Miranda Hobbes: [at a bar, drinking Cosmopolitans] Why did we ever stop drinking these?
Carrie Bradshaw: Because everyone else started!

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Monday, June 23, 2008

S&TC Quote of the Week


Carrie Bradshaw: New York Magazine says Brooklyn is the new Manhattan.

Miranda Hobbes: Yes, but whoever wrote that lives in Brooklyn.

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Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Sex & The City: Quote of the Week...


Charlotte [to Big]: "I curse the day you were born"

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Monday, June 16, 2008

What About Your Friends...


Over the weekend, I went to see Sex & The City with some friends. They say that sometimes when you see a film a second time, you notice things you didn't catch the first time. One theme that I saw resonate throughout the film was the underlying theme of friendship.

At one point during the film, there was a part where the girls rallied around Carrie and it made me remember how through the years, my girlfriends have always done the same. I had to think if I was in that situation, what would they do. And, it came down to the same thing.

I whipped out my cell to send a quick "Miss ya" text to the girls and thought how thankful I was to have them in my life, even after all these years. Meowmix is always the voice of reason. Bec is one of my rocks. Suz is ready to jump at a moment's notice and the Divas - don't even get me started. These gals make me laugh, cry, and just shake my head in amazement at how great they all are.

Later on that night, Suz called me to check in as she got the text. She had just gotten out of a pretty bad crime scene and, even with what she was facing and the next crime scene she was headed off to, she still kept a positive attitude. Sometimes I tend to forget that both her and Meowmix really do see people on the worst days of their lives.

I really don't think I tell my friends how much their friendship means to me, but somehow they know. And, in thinking back, I recall how the ties of friendship bind. Sure we have all moved on with our lives but when the chips are up or down, we're there for each other.

Through all the major stuff in my life, from my broken engagement, Nick's passing, the move to Orlando, etc., the gals have always had my back. Meowmix has suffered one too many meltdowns with me when A. broke my heart for the umpteenth time. Suz and Bec were ready to toss Mark through a window when they got the call I was hurt and the Divas and Bec were there when Nick passed and I thought I was on the verge of a breakdown. They also celebrated the good moments, cheered me on when I decided to actually follow my dream in my move to Orlando and are championing me on with my recent decisions.

Every day I count my blessings for the fabulous friends I have. And, somehow, I know that no matter what I'm faced with, everything will be all right in the end. Men can come and go but its the friendships that will last the test of time.

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Monday, June 09, 2008

Cha-Cha-ing the Night Away...

For those that saw the S&TC movie... these shoes.. you see them right there - the Gladiators that she wore throughout the film. Well, I am of the opinion that these shoes need to be in the closet - specifically MY closet. And now I've got a look in my head and its centered around a pair of cha-cha-cha sandals for Philly.

Well, my friends, let me display what I have found online that has me going "Hello Lovahhhhhhh"

When one is looking for something that is ummm.. a replica, you immediately know you have to go to the king of imitation (I'm saying it tongue in cheek so back down SMLegalCounsel!), where else, Steve Madden. So you must check out this somewhat wallet friendly pair.



This sandal from MAXStudio had me captivated the MINUTE I got the email from Piperlime. The fact I could possibly purchase it online, cash back that sucker from Nordys and go there to pick it up has me going "Hmmm.. possibly"



And Bakers threw their hat in the ring with their Gladys sandal, but, I have made it known that I'm not really a fan of too much Bakers in a gal's closet - call it my Jessica Simpson shoe paranoia (did you know they made her shoes - the ones that a couple Nordys people told me are allegedly so shoddy that they cracked in half and don't hold up to normal wear and tear). Hmmmm.



What's on your radar for summer shoes?

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Monday, June 02, 2008

S&TC Clip: Classic Samantha

After having a really bad ice coffee today (the sugarfree hazelnut non-fat latte was ummm... *funky*), I remembered one of Samantha's lines from Sex In The City. This is one of the classic* scenes of S&TC that makes me burst out in laughter Every. Freakin. Time.



*classic meaning HBO version - NOT TBS watered down version. Meaning - possibly some objectionable content ahead so, don't click if you don't watch or would get offended by a S&TC scene. [yes, MIKE, tis not safe for you my friend]

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S&TC:The Movie: Quote of the Week


Carrie: Some labels are best left in the closet.

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Sunday, June 01, 2008

My Opinion: Sex & The City: The Movie...

Many of my friends know that it takes ALOT for me to go to a movie. Pretty much, the movie has to be pretty daggone good (read: Clooney or I REALLY want to see it) for me to go. I saw way too many movies back in the day when I first moved here so I revert to the rule "I'm Movied OUT".

Well, when Sex & The City: The Movie was announced, I knew I just had to go. I was one of those girls who watched it from the beginning, laughed at the witty banter, marveled at the fashion, discovered a love for all things Manolo, Choo, etc. and just enjoyed the fact that these gals had a friendship that I also shared with my girlfriends.


I'm not reviewing or spoiling the movie, but yes, I was pleased with it. There were some parts I wasn't happy with - the obvious product placement/plugs (I mean, c'mon - Carrie Bradshaw - Bag, Borrow or Steal?), some of the fashion issues (ok - I'll spoil it but I detest the studded belt!) and some of the story flow had me going "Huh?" but I'm going to see it again and just really enjoy it.



Mind you, when we saw it, behind me I had this girl hissing at every. other. scene injecting her two cents where I wanted to turn to her and go "Lady - listen, obviously you don't like XYZ. Get over it - it's a freakin' MOVIE. They CANT HEAR YOU!". Obviously, the theater was pretty packed.



Let's talk about the fashion, not necessarily the movie fashion - that's been covered on other blogs, but the fashion of the people in the theater. People were there in COSTUME. I swear to god. One woman had on a sequined poofy black party dress; another was dressed like Samantha in a hotchacha red dress complete with bag and sunglasses (I wonder if she at least took them off during the movie). Outside the theater after the movie was over, I thought it was great that so many people dressed up to have fun and the fashion was definitely cool - until I saw the girl in the Flashdance sweatshirt, hot pink platform ankle strippah pumps over STIRRUP PANTS. I wanted to pull her aside and say "ENOUGH". That was one of the downers - I guess stirrup pants ARE coming back. *sigh* This gal wasn't old enough to remember them from the 80s so my guess is she got them off the latest trend pile. I had to think "What would the Budget Fashionista say?"



I did find myself tearing up at some scenes, laughing hysterically at others and just in awe of some of the fashion in the movie. So much so, I'm determined to find some new shoes to replace those that I am getting rid of. And my goal this week - organize my closet because, dammit, I need a fabulous closet again - not a cluttered one.



What did you think of the movie?

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Friday, May 30, 2008

Taking The Night Off...


Heading out to see S&TC movie with the ever fabulous Fus. and Aud for some swanky Orlando shinding, complete with cosmos. Will be back tomorrow.

Have a fabulous evening, y'all!

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Sunday, May 25, 2008

Fashion Inspiration: Jewelry from S&TC Movie...

I was looking at Bag, Borrow & Steal the other day (Shhhh - just LOOKING 'k?? I'm perfectly happy with the Cole bag - just don't tell the bag I was looking at others and we'll all be okay). They had a segment on Sex & The City and I figured just for kicks and giggles I would take a looksee.

It was like heaven - a bizillion clicks later and I wanted to go through my wardrobe and figure out what stays and what goes. I am sometimes inspired by things I see which makes me run to my closet with a renewed sense of purpose. I haven't done that since the premiere of Lipstick Jungle (which is out on DVD on Tuesday - sqeeeeeeee!). Friends of mine that have gone shopping with me know that sometimes it's not for the "shopping" I go - but wandering through the stores inspires me to think of what I do have and how to switch it up.

There was one jewelry designer I have fallen hard for - MIRIAM HASKELL. I am a sucker for a good pearl necklace (multiple strands) and this necklace had me going "I'll go without new shoes for a full season!" Isn't it gorgeous? Her whole line is gorgeous - and inspiring.

One day, Lys. One day.
:::sigh:::
[Photo courtesy of Miriam Haskell]

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Tuesday, May 20, 2008

In Da YouTube; Spoiling Yer Moviez...

If you don't want a spoiler for S&TC the movie, then don't click on the tape.

I, however, totally spoiled it for myself and am looking to bring others down the same path with me. G'head - click click!



Forgive my lack of posting - my muscles are crying out screams of abuse due to a little DVD called Hip Hop Abs. Yeah - I know. One word - "MPs".

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Monday, March 24, 2008

Ok - Who's Game? S&TC Movie Preview...

You MUST watch this. Much thanks to The Diva's Thoughts for the heads up. Who else is going to see the new Sex & The City movie? I, personally, cannot wait - Now where's my cosmo...

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Sunday, September 16, 2007

Fashion Week S&TC Wisdom


Charlotte (whispering): Could you please not use the F-word in Vera Wang?

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Thursday, September 13, 2007

The Return of... S&TC Musings of the Week...

In honor of the new Sex & The City movie due to start filming shortly and an absence of all things Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha related...please enjoy this week's Sex & The City Quote of the Week...

Samantha: I can't even be around that man. He's dangerous and toxic.

Carrie: So he's manthrax?

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Monday, August 13, 2007

Fashion Challenge - Do You Dare...

OK - here's the skinny. Those that know their S&TC trivia know that the Manolo Blahnik Mary Jane is like the holy grail of shoes. How can one ever forget the scene of Carrie in Vogue's famous closet commenting on how she thought they were an urban myth.


Look at these lovelies...



Aren't they spectacular? The price, however, is not.


I was reading a blog this morning about this shoe for fall, and thought "I sooo love those but I can't have anything high up close to the ankle". Why you ask - because on a plus size fashionista, the higher the strap, the closer you come to making the leg look stumpy and this gal cannot rock a stumpy leg. Nosirrree!

Now I know Steven by Steven Madden has the Mary Jane, but their version has the high strap.


SO - here's my challenge fashionistas - can you help a gal out with finding a Mary Jane with a HIGH heel with a low thin strap ala the Manolo beauty?

Many many thanks and good karma coming your way!

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Sunday, June 17, 2007

S&TC Quote of the Week...


Miranda: I said no white, no ivory, no nothing that says virgin. I have a child. The jig is up.

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Sunday, June 10, 2007

S&TC Reflection of the Week...

Miranda: Samantha, I have to say, you are amazing.

Samantha: I am. And if you love me in chemo, wait till you see me at Smith's movie premiere. I'm getting a hot dress, fantastic shoes... I'm going to kick cancer and that red carpet's ass!


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Sunday, June 03, 2007

Sex & The City Humor for the Week...


Carrie: I'm drunk .. in Vogue!

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Monday, May 28, 2007

S&TC Memories...

Charlotte: Imagine, being blind and not being able to see a beautiful day like today. Can you think of anything worse?

Anthony: Stonewashed jeans and a matching jacket.

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